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What Not to Say to a Grieving Person after a Fatal Arizona Accident
"Am I Supposed to Feel like this?" written by Yulee Triplett Schafer focuses on what to expect when a tragedy devastates someone’s life. After a close friend or family member has lost a loved one, it is normal to want to give that person advice and help relieve their pain. However, it is important to consider how your words may affect your friend before saying something that could upset them even more. Here is a list of phrases that should be avoided when trying to console a grieving friend:
- He/ She is in a better place
- I know how you feel
- God wanted him/her to be with him
- There is a reason for everything
- You are still upset?
- Be strong
- It was their time
- They led a good life
- They lived a long life, many don’t live as long
- You can have/find another
- They brought this on themselves
All of these phrases are more harmful than helpful. Saying that a person is in a better place or it was their time is like saying the deceased person’s life was not good on earth and they had a limited time to live. Saying that you know how the other person feels is impossible. You can imagine how they feel but never really exactly how they feel. If you are in doubt about what to say just simply hold the persons hand and hug them. These two things will make the person feel more supported than any words could ever do.
Phoenix AZ wrongful death lawyers, Alexis and Mark Breyer of the Husband and Wife Law Team have written the foreword to "Am I Supposed to Feel like this?" As personal injury and wrongful death attorney’s they see people on a daily basis struggling with grief, whether it was because of the loss of a loved one or a life changing injury. Alexis and Mark have learned that they will never know exactly how a client or their family is feeling. To help their clients struggling with a loss they provide the book as a free resource. If you would like to order a free copy of "Am I Supposed to Feel like this?" please call (602) 267-1280.
